What parent of a daughter does not have a dance recital story? Who among us has not endured hours of dance classes for the single hope of taking a picture of our little girl in a tutu? Which one of us, like Jimmy Kimmel, has been informed by our daughter right before her dance recital, that she will not be dancing? We all have.
All parents know nap time and bed time can be all out warfare. Now that we all have baby cams equipped with night vision, we all know that the getting our kids into bed is just the beginning of the fight. Kids are expert escape artists and rarely go to sleep once we have turned the lights out. YouTuber Bryan Lanning knows this all too well after watching his toddler help his little brother bust out of nap time. Is this a promo for toddler "Prison Break"?
Since its release in 1995, Randy Newman's "You've Got a Friend In Me" has been a source of smiles and nostalgia for people all over the globe -- namely, '90s babies.
And, because of that, the song has been covered countless times by other musicians, people on the internet, kids, parents and now, the adorable daddy-daughter duo of 4-year-old Claire Ryann and her dad.
Their cover, which was released via YouTube five days ago, already has over 1.8 million views -- and for good reason. Not only are the two incredibly cute, but they're super talented and, obviously, have a lot of musical chemistry.
Nicole Kidman is currently riding a wave of critical acclaim for her leading role in the movie, "Lion." The Oscar-winning actress was nominated for a Golden Globe for her portrayal of adopted mother Sue Brierley and is likely to receive an Oscar nomination.
Kidman, an adoptive mother herself, has said she relates to the role greatly and was recently asked by BBC 2's Victoria Derbyshire, "would you like more children?"
Kidman does wish she had more children, "two or three more," but husband Keith Urban has told her, "He's kinda maxed out. He's like, 'I'm done baby, I'm done. Let's just focus on what we have.' "
Kidman also went on to say, "I love, love children. I love raising children … they make me feel good and I love being around and I love the ups and downs, and I love watching them grow and the things they say and teach."
For the full, in-depth interview visit BBC2.
I've been babysitting since I was 12 years old. I put out an ad in my neighborhood newsletter and next thing I knew I was being picked up by dads and watching their little ones for date nights. Now that I'm (let's say 30ish and leave it at that) I still babysit on occasion, mostly for families that I've known for years. Over my 15-plus years of childcare, I've learned that every family is not created equally and that some parents need a few tips that their sitters are probably too afraid to tell them.
1. Jumping from Sitter to Sitter is Rude
And it hurts our feelings. Don't get me wrong, babysitting isn't a full-time job, so it's likely you won't be able to get the same sitter every time you need one, but at least try. Finding a sitter you like (and your kids like) is important. Once you find "the one" stick with him or her and your sitter will do the same. Of course, you'll need subs from time to time, but if we know you asked us first we'll feel much better about it. We will find out if you're sitter-jumping because your kids will rat you out. There are families that were loyal to me so I was loyal to them. I've actually canceled plans with friends in order to help families out in a bind. It's a two-way street.
2. Last Minute Cancellations are Not Cool
If you cancel on your sitter the day of or even the day before without paying them for their time, they're going to resent you. They've set aside this time and are expecting to earn a certain amount during that time. If you're canceling last minute, they don't have time to find replacement income. For some sitters, this could be as important as making rent or not.
3. I'm Not in it for the Money
Babysitting isn't something you do just for a paycheck. Babysitting attracts people who like kids, but may not be ready to have their own. Babysitting is about having conversations about dragons and fairies instead of bills and career paths. That said, it is a job. Make sure that you and your babysitter are on the same page when it comes to money. And understand that if you change the terms -- like have another kid or ask them to watch an entire sleepover -- that your normal rate may not apply. Your babysitter is like any other employee despite the fact that they love your kids. Make sure if the workload changes, so does the pay structure.
4. Will There be Food?
Most sitters won't know how to broach this subject with you. If you always order pizza when you have a sitter, let them know so they can plan accordingly. Vice versa, if you are having a sitter around a meal time and you've been on vacation so the house is devoid of food, let them know. There's nothing worse than expecting to be fed but instead having to order a pizza after the kids go to sleep.
5. I Don't Work for Your Kid
Nothing throws me into a rage more than hearing a nine-year-old profess that I work for him. No, no I don't. I work for you, but you need to make it clear to your child that is not the same thing. If I am going to be respected at all, I can't be taking orders from someone under three feet tall. While on the topic, you have to back me up in their presence. You may not like the way I handled a situation, but please talk to me about that when the kid is out of the room. If you side with them, they will never listen to me again.
6. Maybe I Can't Stay Late
Most of the time, staying late isn't a big deal especially if it's a Friday or Saturday night. But some times it is. So, please ask rather than assume. I was once an hour late for my own birthday party because a parent was two hours late. Then there was a time that I took a last minute job that was supposed to be done at 9pm, which was perfect because I was flying out the next morning at 8am. Next thing I know, the parents stayed out until after midnight and I didn't even make it home until 1am. Be respectful of your sitter's schedule and they'll be respectful of yours.
7. I'm Terrified of Your Appliances
I babysat for a family four days a week for a year. They asked me to load up the dishwasher but during that time, it never needed to be turned on. On my very last day, I was loading up the dishwasher and -- shocker -- it was full! Well, the mixture of it being the first time to use it and having the kids distracting me caused me to put the hand soap in rather than the dishwasher stuff. The result? Suds flowing out of the dishwasher at extreme speed. The entire kitchen looked like it was sitting on a cloud. You may think it's common sense, but please give your sitter a lesson on any appliance you'd like he or she to use.
8. Please Don't Overreact
It can't be fun to walk into your home and hear your child screaming bloody murder. It definitely isn't fun to have what seemed like the perfect babysitting gig go south the second the parent arrives. I can't tell you the number of times I've had an incident-free day and then literally the second a parent walks in the door, the child falls or slips or does something to warrant the death scream. Parents who approach that situation calmly, don't amplify situation. Parents who rush in, pull the child from your grasp and harshly ask "what happened?" just make things worse. The kid cries harder, because now they can play the attention card, and you come off like you're accusing the sitter of intentionally hurting your child or being intentionally neglectful. Accidents happen and most sitters are looking for job security: we're just as upset when a kid gets hurt.
Growing up, I didn’t give my parents much credit. Once I became a teenager, I knew all I needed to know for life. Then, I hit adulthood, and after that motherhood, and, suddenly, my parents were some of the wisest people I’d ever met. Now, I can see that they were right about a lot of things. I may have rolled my eyes then, but I’m certainly not now.
7 things my parents were right about (although I’m sure there are more):
1. Time passes in the blink of an eye .
My mom and dad would look back on pictures taken years ago and comment about how quickly life goes by. I would nod my head like I understood, but I didn’t really get it. Now, I realize It’s not just the years that go by quickly, it’s five years, and then suddenly a decade. It’s that moment when you are looking at your own wedding day pictures, and you think, “we were just kids.”
2. Hospitality means everybody is always welcome.
My parents always had an open-door policy for all my friends and my siblings’ friends. Our friends knew the garage door code and knew right where the snack drawer was. They also knew that if they stayed long enough, they’d get invited to dinner. My parents showed me that hospitality doesn’t just mean having your neighbors over for dinner once in a while, it’s treating all people like they are welcome at your home – even (occasionally obnoxious) teenagers.
3. Always treat people kindly because you never know what they’re going through.
After an interaction with a rude person at a store once, my mom told me, “always treat people kindly. You never know what’s going on in their lives.” It’s something I’ve never forgotten. The way she figured, if we could peek into other people’s lives, we’d understand why they act rude or unkind, but even without knowing why, we should still treat people with kindness.
4. It’s different with your own kids .
One summer when I was in college, I babysat two little boys who were a little wild and mischievous. I didn’t really enjoying babysitting, and started to even question how I could be a mom one day if I didn’t particularly enjoy hanging out with kids all day long. My mom only laughed, and said, “it’s different with your own kids.” Turns out, she was right about that, too. When they’re your kids, you don’t really mind the dirty diapers, or the sleepless nights. That doesn’t mean they don’t drive you crazy sometimes, but the depth of love you have for your own kids is something you can’t really understand until you become a parent.
5. The sky’s the limit .
My dad dreamed big dreams of his own, and also had big dreams for his kids. He truly believed we could do anything that we put our minds to doing, and he didn’t want our fear of failure to be a stumbling block as we pursued those dreams. As a kid this applied to sports and pursuing higher education, but it’s had an even bigger impact on me as an adult, as I’ve pursued careers and taken up new hobbies. Just knowing someone else believes in you, helps you believe in yourself.
6. You’re only responsible for your own emotions .
I don’t know what prompted my mom to tell me this in high school. Perhaps, she wanted me to refrain from getting caught up in high school drama, borrowing on the emotions of a group or something like that. Whatever the reason, it’s something that has stuck with me, and reminded me at times, that I can’t control other people or how they feel about something. I’m only responsible for for my emotions. It’s not my responsibility to make every person around me happy.
7. This too shall pass.
From dealing with teenage drama and broken hearts to sleepless nights with a newborn, my mom has always been right there to remind me that, “this too shall pass.” Though I may not have believed her at the time, I look back now and realize that she was right. Life is full of hard things, but some of those hard things are just stages that we pass in and out of, and before we know it, that hard stage is just a memory. As a parent of two little boys, I’m just beginning to realize how much I have to teach them as they grow up, but one thing is for sure – I’ll start with some of the things my parents taught me.
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