In her latest episode, titled “Let’s Talk About Sex,” Jana is back behind the mic talking about her intimacy issues with husband Mike Caussin. Mike has returned for the segment, claiming that he didn’t know what the discussion would be about. “Is this a couples therapy session like on air right now?, he said.
Turns out, it was. As the couple continues to work on their marriage—separating in 2016 due to Mike’s infidelity issues, only to reunite recently— they reveal that one of their issues is sex. “We’re talking about sex and intimacy today and that’s something that we have issues with, in the bedroom,” Jana begins the podcast.
“Unfortunately the infidelity piece plays a part in this because there’s times I do wanna have sex, and I play the game of waiting for you to come to me because I’m like ‘Well, you know, why doesn’t he want me? Why doesn’t he wanna sleep with me since he slept with someone else? I think that does play a part with my head.
“For me, I wish we could find someone to help us get out of our heads. You have anxiety but I’m like ‘I’m not pretty enough’ and I’m insecure and I’m like why doesn’t he choose me and I feel rejected again,” she continued. “When infidelity does play a part that’s what affects our sex life, then I get upset and you get upset.”
Mike went on to explain that communication is key and that the couple is slowly getting better at sharing how they feel.
“I don’t want to feel tested,” Mike said. “I feel like there is passive aggressiveness in a sense of like I know your waiting for me, but there hasn’t been any talk about it and then I get in my head.”
“Because I wanna feel chosen. A part of me is like ‘You left me, so now choose me. Jump on me,’ you know what I mean?” Jana said.
The couple went on to talk about spontaneous sex, which made Jana feel like her husband wanted her. “Just know that I like the spontaneous,” she said. They agreed that spontaneity every once in a while is a good thing.
“If it starts to become this planning thing, then I get in my head,” Mike said. “It’s just anxiety built up to performing. My insecurities or however I feel about myself in that moment, might take over and how I really feel or how I want to be with you. That’s something most men won’t really admit. I never connected sex and intimacy and love together before in my life.”
The couple married in May 2015 and welcomed a daughter, Jolie Rae Caussin in January 2016. In August 2016 the couple announced that they were separating as Mike entered rehab. It was later revealed that Mike had cheated on Jana, causing the separation.
Jana and Mike have worked hard trying to keep their marriage together, even renewing their vows in December of 2017. Since Jana launched her new “Whine Down With Jana” podcast, she has been very open about her marriage and working to keep her family together.
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