Miranda Lambert Says Writing Music Helped Her Cope With Her Divorce: “I’ve Captured the Seven Stages of Grief”

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Miranda Lambert is known for writing music that tells a story— more specifically, that tells her story. After her divorce from Blake Shelton in 2015 and her now-ended relationship with Anderson East, Miranda’s personal life is always in the spotlight. 

Now, in an interview with HITS Daily, she’s opening up about how she’s coped with the last few years and how her music got her through it all. 

“2015 pushed me into a writing mode I’ve never been in before. It’s very humbling to be hurt, and I have to be honest. My fans expect that from me,” she said. 

“I was going through a divorce very publicly, and thank the Lord I am a writer,” she said of her divorce from Blake Shelton. “That meant I could find some way to deal with it, that people could say, ‘I get it — I’ve been there too.’ And ‘It’s why I related to you because I went through the same thing,’”

Miranda said going through such a public divorce made her feel alone. 

“It made me feel so alone, as much as it does anybody else. There’s fun stuff on there too. I feel like I’ve captured the seven stages of grief, but it took me 24 songs to get there,”

She went on to say that at the end of the day, she’s only human.

“I am who I am. I am honest about being flawed. That’s all I can be, you know? I cuss. I drink. I get divorced and get my heart broken. I break hearts,” she said. 

“I can’t do or be that anymore, or it’ll drive me crazy. I won’t be good anymore. I felt, maybe, a different kind of fear than any other record. It was really my life’s work and my life’s story. But there was also relief, I was thankful to let the music do what the music does — and to allow myself that.” 

She said she took a social media detox while she wrote. 

“The truth is it’s in my music if you listen close enough. I took three months off all socials in 2015. I loved it. I realized I wasn’t picking up my phone looking at Twitter and Instagram. I wrote 75 songs in six months because I wasn’t using my mind staring at mindless s—. I took a week off a little while ago, and it felt so good.”

She said that she hopes her music helps others cope, too. 

“I’m willing to say whatever I need to say so people understand. I’m hoping my story’s their story because everybody’s had s— in their lives. I’m just thankful I get a voice to speak about it,” she said. “It’s unpleasant, believe me. It’s unpleasant for me sometimes to write it down and sing it into my phone. Oh, I hurt myself, you know, and I’m glad I did because I hope it hurts somebody else too. It lets it out,” Lambert added.

Colleen Matthews
Raised in Fayetteville, Arkansas, Colleen grew up cheering on the Razorbacks, fishing with her dad, learning about southern hospitality from her mom, and enjoying the best of The Ozarks. When she's not writing, she's likely spoiling her black lab, playing pranks on her husband, chasing around her nieces and nephews, or rearranging her house.