Rory Feek released his second book, Once Upon a Farm, on June 19. In a new blog post titled “I Choose Love,” the singer from Joey + Rory explains that the book won’t be available in most Christian bookstores because of a “challenging chapter” that discusses his middle daughter Hopie’s coming out.
“My guess is, it’s because of the same challenging chapter in it,” he writes on his blog. “The chapter about my middle daughter Hopie. About change. And about faith. And ultimately about love. In a different chapter of the new book, I share the story of how my oldest daughter Heidi says she’s an atheist and has no interest in organized religion. For some reason, they are fine with that. But the chapter about how my middle daughter Hopie says she’s a Christian, but disagrees with some church doctrine, is somehow unacceptable. That seems so strange to me.”
He continues, “I get it though, this is tough stuff… because they have their beliefs and want to stand by them. And I want to honor that. But honestly, what is it that they would prefer I do? Shun my daughter? Or not share something that we as a family are going through, just because it’s challenging and devisive?”
The singer then shares an excerpt of the book, including the chapter where he discusses his daughter coming out to him and her plans to wed her longtime girlfriend, Wendy, on his Tennessee farm later this year.
“I don’t have any answers to the hard questions in life. I’m clearly not a Biblical scholar and have no assumptions about what might be right or wrong for anyone except for myself. I am just a father, trying to love his kids. All of them,” he concedes. “Trying to be more than I’ve been, so that one day my children might be encouraged to be more than what others might say or think they are too . . . This new chapter though – not just in the book, but in my life – has been a bit more challenging for my heart and my character. I’ve still got a long way to grow, but I believe that I’m getting there. And I can’t help but think, in the end… how can we lose if we choose love?”