If you’ve ever planned a wedding you’ll recognize these guest mistakes immediately. The inappropriate actions, odd requests, or rude behaviors are in attendance at almost every ceremony. While you may be well-versed in wedding etiquette, some of your friends and family may not be aware of what’s acceptable.
So what are these mistakes?
11 Mistakes Wedding Guests Make:
1. They Don’t RSVP
This mistake is probably one of the most common. People tend to treat RSVPs as a novelty rather than a must! Failing to RSVP makes it nearly impossible for the bride or wedding planner to get a firm head count for the caterer and for seating. It’s every bride’s worst nightmare.
2. Using the Bride as a Travel Agent
Once guests receive the invitation, they start calling the bride asking where to stay, where to eat and all the fun things to do while in town. The bride has enough on her mind and this is why Google was invented.
3. Sending a RSVP but With Extra Guests
Well, at least they RSVP’d, right? The bad news is they are bringing someone the bride hasn’t accounted for and probably never even met. This is beyond awkward. And rude.
4. Bringing a Huge Gift to the Wedding
That doesn’t sound so bad does it? A bride really can’t complain about a gift, but how is she supposed to get it home? Plus, it’s just one more thing for her to think about. If at all possible, you should have gifts shipped to the requested location.
5. Requesting Songs
Typically the bride puts together a playlist with the DJ. Unless the DJ specifically asks for requests, they are not kosher.
6. Drinking Too Much
A few too many and one guest has officially turned from the life of the party to the hot mess of the party. Know your limits and if you don’t, stay away from the bar.
7. The Wedding Crasher
You know the ones. The bride looks to the groom and says, “Who invited them?” They get an “A” for guts, but an “F” for etiquette.
8. Giving Unexpected Toasts
Weddings are emotional and toasts are the perfect opportunity for your close friends and family to share their excitement with the rest of the guests. These are no problem. It’s when emotions or liquor make guests do and say embarrassing things. Be courteous to the bride and groom, don’t embarrass them with stories, offensive language or by rambling on much too long.
9. Showing Up Late
For whatever reason, some guests seem to think they can arrive 20 minutes late and not miss a thing. Not only is this rude, it is highly disruptive and takes eyes off the bride and groom and on to you.
10. Going Rogue on the Gift
Some guests feel buying off a registry is impersonal so they purchase something that isn’t on the registry. To be fair, sometimes this works out but most of the time, it doesn’t. That leaves the bride with a gift she must either return or live with until she decides it is safe to put it in a yard sale.
They leave their phones on and it rings during the ceremony. Or they bring their iPad and lean out into the aisle to get the perfect photo while blocking the real photographer. You know, the one they bride and groom paid to capture their wedding. Leave the technology at home or at least make certain all devices are turned off.
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