The Thanksgiving season is a time to be grateful for the blessings in your life. For some, it’s a time to reflect on the hardships you’ve faced and how you overcame them— including actress Beverley Mitchell.
The “7th Heaven” star took to her personal blog on Thanksgiving day to share the heartbreaking story of her miscarriage and why she believes it’s important to share her story. Mitchell and her husband, Michael Cameron, have two children together, Hutton and Kenzie— and recently discovered they were pregnant with not one but two babies.
“A few months back Michael and I were thrilled, we had just found out we were pregnant, and though we were surprised, we were excited. It didn’t take long before we began to prepare for a life filled with more little people in it. And much to our surprise, we came to find out it was twins! After our shock, came acceptance and excitement,” she said.
Her excitement, she says, was quickly crashed over with grief.
“A few weeks later, our new dream of our growing family came crashing down; we had a miscarriage,” she said. “This was a shock. Honestly, my first instinct was to say I was fine, and to be honest; I was trying to be. I thought I had to be, for my family, for myself. I had to jump on a plane and go to work being surrounded by babies and kids while I was still miscarrying. That was interesting.”
Like many women, Mitchell didn’t really consider that she was at risk for miscarrying, seeing as she had two healthy pregnancies already.
“I never really considered that I would miscarry being that I had already had two healthy pregnancies. This was my misconception, you see, I didn’t know much about miscarriages and I didn’t know many people who had miscarried, or so I thought. It wasn’t until I started sharing our loss that I found out many people I knew shared the same scars.”
She quickly realized that the biggest problem of all was how infrequently women shared this type of pain.
“I was now part of a group, the unspoken and hidden group who mourn their losses in the shadows. This was the hardest part, suffering in silence,” she said. “Every time I shared what we were going through I made people uncomfortable, no one ever knows what to say, and to be honest, there is nothing to say. Most people who are sharing their story, we aren’t looking for anything just the opportunity to share their story. It is with sharing it that the healing begins, the acceptance that it happened, it is when you ignore it or pretend that it never happened that you cause more pain. Dismissing it almost makes it worse.”
While Mitchell says she still has dreams of growing her family, she can’t help but be grateful for what she does have.
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So much to be grateful for!!! Sharing a little bit about the past few months, a little heartache, a miscarriage, and healing! Thankful for my wonderful family who fills my ♥️! Shared more on my blog! Link in profile! And thank you you to all of you for your love and support! And giving me a platform to share all my highs and lows! #healing #thankful #grateful #blessed #miscarriage #notalone #thanksgiving #family #myeverything #myrock
“We still have dreams of growing our family but now more than ever, I look at Kenzie, Hutton, and Michael and just feel full. If we are blessed with more children they will fill us with more love, but for now, I look at my family and I am GRATEFUL, BLESSED, and THANKFUL.”
You can read Beverley Mitchell’s full blog post here.