Former “Bachelorette” Ali Fedotowsky-Manno Reveals Miscarriage: ‘I Was In Complete Shock’

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Former Bachelorette Ali Fedotowsky-Manno is a wife and mother of two and a strong woman in every sense of the world. But even the strongest can fall when faced with a miscarriage.

On Tuesday (July 21,) Fedotowsky-Manno headed to her Instagram page to share the news that she had lost her baby.

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“I am 1 in 4,” she wrote alongside a pic of a bouquet of flowers. “I don’t really know what to say here. I’m sitting in my car, using talk to text & I’m just gonna speak from my heart. I had a miscarriage recently (I’m at the OBGYN right now for a follow up). I’m not sharing this bc I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important. I’m so uplifted and encouraged by the way I’m seeing social media change. Change from being a place where everyone shares the highlights of their life and now being a place where people share the good & the bad – the smiles & the tears.”

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I am 1 in 4. I don’t really know what to say here. I’m sitting in my car, using talk to text & I’m just gonna speak from my heart. I had a miscarriage recently (I’m at the OBGYN right now for a follow up). I’m not sharing this bc I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important. I’m so uplifted and encouraged by the way I’m seeing social media change. Change from being a place where everyone shares the highlights of their life and now being a place where people share the good & the bad – the smiles & the tears. ❤️ It’s such a long story of how it all happened. I’m not ready to fully talk about it and I honestly don’t know if I ever will be. (CONTENT WARNING – this may be difficult to read. Especially for those who have experienced a pregnancy loss) It happened early one morning when I had intense cramping. I passed the gestational sac – which was the size of a plum – in my bedroom. I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours – not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating. Actually, being completely exhausted for weeks was one of the first signs that I was pregnant. 🌸 I’m writing this post to let others know who have experienced pregnancy loss know that I see you & feel you. We all go through different emotions & process the loss differently. I know that my loss is not the same as someone who’s had a stillbirth or lost a baby at 20 weeks. Or someone who has been trying to conceive for years. But what I found so shocking about my experience is that it affected me so much harder than I could have imagined. So know that if you’re going or have gone through this, your feelings are valid – whatever they may be❤️ With love, Ali #miscarriage #

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And while how the miscarriage actually happened is never anyone’s business, Fedotowsky-Manno said she had made the decision to share her story for the benefit of those who might be going through the same thing.

“It’s such a long story of how it all happened,” she wrote. “I’m not ready to fully talk about it and I honestly don’t know if I ever will be. (CONTENT WARNING – this may be difficult to read. Especially for those who have experienced a pregnancy loss) It happened early one morning when I had intense cramping. I passed the gestational sac – which was the size of a plum – in my bedroom. I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours – not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating. Actually, being completely exhausted for weeks was one of the first signs that I was pregnant. I’m writing this post to let others know who have experienced pregnancy loss know that I see you & feel you. We all go through different emotions & process the loss differently. I know that my loss is not the same as someone who’s had a stillbirth or lost a baby at 20 weeks. Or someone who has been trying to conceive for years. But what I found so shocking about my experience is that it affected me so much harder than I could have imagined. So know that if you’re going or have gone through this, your feelings are valid – whatever they may be.”

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Indeed, the post was a heartbreaking one amidst happier Instagram pics of Fedotowsky-Manno and her family, which includes husband Kevin Manno, daughter Molly Sullivan and son Riley Doran.

“Thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and everyone of you for extending your love to me and my family,” she wrote in the comments of her post hours after the news began to spread.“The truth is, I didn’t want to share this. I’ve gone back-and-forth in my head on whether or not I was going to at least 100 times over the last two weeks. But almost all the reasons I didn’t want to share, ended up being the exact reasons why I knew I needed to. Grief and shame tied to miscarriage goes beyond what I originally thought people felt shame about when discussing miscarriage – at least for me. I never quite realized part of that shame was feeling like you didn’t deserve support afterwards. So thank you for reminding me and helping me see that it’s OK to feel supported in this moment”